I was hit with a strong thought: No one deserves anything.

I was hit with a strong thought: No one deserves anything.

“For me, the letter was a great reminder of the expectations we attach to people, outcomes and situations, and the potential blame we assign when we don’t receive what we have desired.”

http://www.rebellesociety.com/2013/07/30/no-one-owes-you-anything-a-letter-from-harry-browne-to-his-daughter/ Harry’s letter to his daughter:

It’s Christmas and I have the usual problem of deciding what to give you. I know you might enjoy many things — books, games, clothes.

But I’m very selfish. I want to give you something that will stay with you for more than a few months or years. I want to give you a gift that might remind you of me every Christmas.

If I could give you just one thing, I’d want it to be a simple truth that took me many years to learn. If you learn it now, it may enrich your life in hundreds of ways. And it may prevent you from facing many problems that have hurt people who have never learned it.

The truth is simply this: No one owes you anything.

Significance

How could such a simple statement be important? It may not seem so, but understanding it can bless your entire life.

No one owes you anything.

It means that no one else is living for you, my child. Because no one is you. Each person is living for himself; his own happiness is all he can ever personally feel.

When you realize that no one owes you happiness or anything else, you’ll be freed from expecting what isn’t likely to be.

It means no one has to love you. If someone loves you, it’s because there’s something special about you that gives him happiness. Find out what that something special is and try to make it stronger in you, so that you’ll be loved even more.

When people do things for you, it’s because they want to — because you, in some way, give them something meaningful that makes them want to please you, not because anyone owes you anything.

No one has to like you. If your friends want to be with you, it’s not out of duty. Find out what makes others happy so they’ll want to be near you.

No one has to respect you. Some people may even be unkind to you. But once you realize that people don’t have to be good to you, and may not be good to you, you’ll learn to avoid those who would harm you. For you don’t owe them anything either.

Living your Life

No one owes you anything.

You owe it to yourself to be the best person possible. Because if you are, others will want to be with you, want to provide you with the things you want in exchange for what you’re giving to them.

Some people will choose not to be with you for reasons that have nothing to do with you. When that happens, look elsewhere for the relationships you want. Don’t make someone else’s problem your problem.

Once you learn that you must earn the love and respect of others, you’ll never expect the impossible and you won’t be disappointed. Others don’t have to share their property with you, nor their feelings or thoughts.

If they do, it’s because you’ve earned these things. And you have every reason to be proud of the love you receive, your friends’ respect, the property you’ve earned. But don’t ever take them for granted. If you do, you could lose them. They’re not yours by right; you must always earn them.

My Experience

A great burden was lifted from my shoulders the day I realized that no one owes me anything. For so long as I’d thought there were things I was entitled to, I’d been wearing myself out —physically and emotionally — trying to collect them.

No one owes me moral conduct, respect, friendship, love, courtesy, or intelligence. And once I recognized that, all my relationships became far more satisfying. I’ve focused on being with people who want to do the things I want them to do.

That understanding has served me well with friends, business associates, lovers, sales prospects, and strangers. It constantly reminds me that I can get what I want only if I can enter the other person’s world. I must try to understand how he thinks, what he believes to be important, what he wants. Only then can I appeal to someone in ways that will bring me what I want.

And only then can I tell whether I really want to be involved with someone. And I can save the important relationships for those with whom I have the most in common.

It’s not easy to sum up in a few words what has taken me years to learn. But maybe if you re-read this gift each Christmas, the meaning will become a little clearer every year.

I hope so, for I want more than anything else for you to understand this simple truth that can set you free. No one owes you anything.

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Designer Talk III

(Before I start this post, I check my IMDb app and look up the designer. This app is the best)

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Paco Delgado is known for the costume design for Les Misérables. They were wonderful. I saw it in theatres once so I would like to see it again to really check out the detail in the clothing.

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I havent seen any if his other films but whats interesting, most of his work originates from Spain. To name a couple, he’s worked with Antonio Banderas in The Skin I Live In, Gael Garcia Bernal in Bad Education and Javier Bardem in Biutiful.

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Les Misérables was the only movie that I’ve seen out of the films that he’s worked on, but i can always check them out 🙂

Designer Talk II

Loving the idea of researching costume designers and blogging about it through my phone 🙂 A little background about myself into why I chose this topic.

In 2007, I worked on my second musical in high school and was asked to design costumes. Having an art background, I agreed to volunteer. Had fun drawing the lobster and the queen of hearts for Alice in Wonderland Jr.  didnt think about it much until we received the finished costumes. That was the day I decided to pursue a career in costume design. I got to work as a costume shop assistant workstudy for 3 years and I just recently got my bachelors in Theatre Design and T.V. Film. Now that im out of school, it allows me to make more time for commissions, and most importantly I love it. This is the website where I upload my work

https://m.facebook.com/nancyamarodesigns

So now my focus is on a designer that I did some research on, her name is Colleen Atwood.

http://www.tumblr.com/tagged/colleen-atwood

She is known for Edward Scissorhands, Chicago, Big Fish, and Alice in Wonderland. I also found out on IMDB that she worked on Silence of the Lambs, Sleepy Hollow, Planet of the Apes, Lemony Snicket’s: A Series of Unfortunate Events, Memoirs of a Geisha, Sweeney Todd and the Black Parade outfits for My Chemical Romance. She is currently doing costumes for Into the Woods with Meryl Streep, Johnny Depp and Anna Kendrick and im really looking forward to it.

I will definetly keep up with her work and look at all the detail when I watch the movies that she worked on.

Designer Talk

In my previous post I was going to discuss more detail about my lists, but decided not to. Instead, in going to talk about my favorite designer.

Eiko Ishioka, is an extraordinary costume designer. The last film she worked on was Mirror Mirror, and at the end I teared in the credits when I read “In the loving memory of Eiko Ishioka”

Eiko is known for Bram Stroker’s Dracula costumes, The Cell, The Fall and Cirque du Soleil’s Vareki. Around 2008, I started noticing her work when I was researching costume designers in college. Since then she has been my favorite. Go ahead and check out the detail in her work.

http://www.tumblr.com/tagged/eiko-ishioka

One thing I always question myself with any costume designer, did they know which fabrics to pick or did they just design? Because my favorite part about a design is thinking about how they planned to chose the fabrics and the person who sewed them together.

For example, designer Elie Tahari, I didn’t pay to much attention to the fashion, but I looved the way the seams were sewn together in this specific jacket that I saw. It had contrast lining at the seam allowances in the inside. It blew my mind in how much detail that was. Acording to Wikipedia, Elie sold his share in 2003, so thats interesting.

Either way, can’t help but wonder who is behind the planning of the overall design. I will definitely start looking up where and who sews designer clothing.

Happier with Lists

I love making lists and checking them off when they are completed. Now that I have a smartphone I can keep up with my lists without ever losing my written notes.

To name a few, im going to look up 1-2 clothing designers a week and study their work, and practice 5 sewing techniques a month. If I have a list, I can meet the deadline.

Im 23, and ive had my smartphone for a couple months now. The Alcatel Fierce by T-Mobile is simple to use and cheap. I love it, and I’ve been able to explore several apps and now, I will be able to keep up with this blog.

 

Next time I will discuss my lists in more detail 🙂

_Nancy

Directing II Film Projects at the University of Texas Pan American

This is a list of film projects this Fall ’12 semester from the students at UTPA. Hope you enjoy and leave them feedback.

Killer Klowns from Outer Space adaptation. Directed Chuy Gutierrez

Also check out Chuy Gutierrez’s other work on Vimeo. Its amazing!

http://vimeo.com/chue/videos

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The Warriors adaptation. Directed by Andres Sanchez

http://vimeo.com/andressanchez/videos

Check out his other Vimeo Videos

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The Great Gatsby adaptation. Directed by Perla Rodriguez

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Paper Moon adaptation. Directed by Nancy Amaro

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Mysery adaptation. Directed by Gerardo Arguelles

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The Godfather adaptation. Directed by Daniel Alexandro Ledezma

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Easy Rider adaptation. Directed by Kevin Canales

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La Bamba adaptation. Directed by Leonardo Daniel Blanco

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Big Trouble in Little China adaptation. Directed by Christian Ritter

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Scarface adaptation. Directed by Isaac Dominguez

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More projects that have yet to upload their work online. Blog will be updated once I can put up the links.

Jacobs Ladder adaptation. Directed by Luis Moreno
Breakfast Club adaptation. Directed by Viviana Rodríguez

A Book you should check out! The Girl Who Would Be King by Kelly Thompson and Stephanie Hans

The internet is the perfect medium to share the talent of new authors and artists with a lot of potential.

First of all, the artwork is AMAZING! Im glad the kickstarter was successful! 🙂

“A novel about two teenage girls with superpowers and radically different agendas, destined for a collision that will rock the world:

Separated by thousands of miles, two young women are about to realize their extraordinary powers which will bind their lives together in ways they can’t begin to understand.

Protecting others. Maintaining order. Being good. These are all important things for Bonnie Braverman, even if she doesn’t understand why. Confined to a group home since she survived the car accident that killed both her parents, Bonnie has lived her life until now in self-imposed isolation and silence; but when an opportunity presents itself to help another girl in need, Bonnie has to decide whether to actually use the power she has long suspected she has. Power that frightens her.

Across the country, Lola LeFever is inheriting her own power by sending her mother over a cliff…literally. For Lola the only thing that matters is power; getting it, taking it, and eliminating anyone who would get in the way of her pursuit of it. With her mother dead and nothing to hold her back from the world any longer, Lola sets off to test her own powers on anyone unfortunate enough to cross her. And Lola’s not afraid of anything.

One girl driven to rescue, save, and heal; the other driven to punish, destroy, and kill.

And now they’re about to meet.

Recommended for ages 15 and up” (Amazon)

Purchase it right here on Amazon!  http://tinyurl.com/9dpkcmg

Kindle Price is only $4.99!

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Nancy Amaro, 22, nancy.amaro@gmail.com

Referred: Angela Graham (@thegelasays)